Yup that is what the Huff post sex pundit had to say today. In a carefully worded essay she tries to convince the readers that communicating will make your marriage and sex life better.
Bullshit.
People do not change.
Sure …. just tell your significant other a couple of nice things then spring on them what you are now into. That may work for women talking to their guys but not for guys talking to their women.
Remember….
Women have spent their entire lives practicing saying NO! to guys regardless of their relationship with them.
Face it Sparky you cannot engender affection, understanding or empathy in someone else if it is not there in the first place. I know of no woman that does not hold her husband in contempt. That contempt is most alive in the bedroom.
Firmly in the mind of all wives is the thought “Do exactly what I want and don’t try anything you saw looking at porn on the internet.”
Or the more common reality:
No I have cramps tonight…
When earlier that day they ran through a pack of batteries and started a new case of tennis elbow and carpal tunnel syndrome making their womanhood so raw that if anyone touched it she would scream in pain.
They all have a new spokesperson in Whitney “I don’t need to learn any sex tricks I HAVE A VAGINA!” Cummings. She as a professional knows that it would not be funny if it was not true.
The concept of requited affection is what is missing in most relationships. Even in this huff blather this woman advisers asking for what you want…. Never mind what her partner wants. She sounds like a typical woman that thinks that as long as the man ejaculates he has had the best time of his life. Seamen has appeared. No further effort should be put into the act.
Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.: Sex: The Honeymoon and Beyond: Advice From a Sex Therapist.